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Hello to everyone who remembers me from the early days of Carer's in its various evolutions.

It's been a while since i've been able to get in to chat or post which was further complicated when my 'piglet' went into a specialist neurological rehab hospital in december 2013 for what was supposed to be a routine assessment but then turned into a nightmare during which i almost lost him to inadequate care and incompentance by the nursing staff.

His discharge was delayed because our home was flooded in january and february 2014 so there was no home for him to be discharged to. However they made sure he could be discharged anyway on 8th April 2014 ...... to an acute hopsital with several potentially fatal infections. Combined with the disaster of the flood i had a break down and couldnt see him for a month. He was moved to another hospital in May 2014 for 2 months and finally to a nursing home for 3 months until our bungalow was ready for him to return. I can only guess how close i came to losing him by the physical mess he was in when i eventually saw him on May 5th 2014. In all we were living apart for 10 months - the worst period of my life ever.

With one exception i have no longer have any trust in hospital nursing staff to be able to look after my 'piglet'. Some community services are based at the hospital that triggered the near tradegy but i have refused to go anywhere near that hospital again. fortunatly they have local clinics however evn that hasnt been an easy ride.

He was coming to the end of a dental program when he went in for his assessment and it should have been completed in april or may 2014. This all had to be shelved and now wont be completed until August 2015.

We are still surrounded by post flood building sites and desperatly in need of a holiday but we can no longer visit the hotels that we used to because of his condition. We are hoping to get to an adapted cottage close to the south coast in October which will be the anniversay of his homecoming.

I'm looking forward to getting in and catching up with everyone in the coming months

It's great to be back

Lesley
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Hi lesley,

what a time you have had. No wonder it got too much. You are such a strong person to get through all of that. So glad your piglet is home safely. I do hope you find somewhere nice for a very well deserved break for you both.

take care and lovely go hear from you

xxxx

Hi Lesley,
I remember you joined us in 2005 and before then you was with our msn group.
I am delighted you are back with us.
xxx

Welcome back Lesley.xxx

wel222 Lesley.

Welcome back Lesley, sounds like you have had a traumatic time.

wel222

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It's altered my whole out look on life - I was always forward looking and had a positive outlook - glass half full etc but i've also had a tendancy to try an analyse things and i cant help looking back trying to see if there was anything i could/should have done

it's probably been at least four years of problems starting when my mother passed in march 2011. There were all sorts of problems caused my sister. we were never close but the way she behaved was dreadful and opened up a pandora's box of issues.

December 2012 my best friend (who was more like the sister that the real one never was) found that her breast cancer had come back - she'd had major surgery and then reconstruction and was just coming up to her 5th anniversary since diagnosis. This time it was terminal - several places in her bones. The summer of 2013 she let me know she'd got a chest infection but then nothing until i discovered her house was being sold which only meant one thing.

I was just coming to terms with losing her when my piglet got his appointment for his assessment. Hopes were high for a resolution for variois complications but this soon turned into the nightmare because of their poor nursing care

What happened in 2014 was probably the final straw that broke me. I am gradually getting my 'mojo' back but just when i think i'm getting to the top of the pit something unexpected comes and knocks me back.

At the moment it's a mass of red tape that's tying up a project for flood resilience.

Lesley 34m

I hope life will settle down for you without any knock backs.

well I am glad you are here, the members will support you through the good times and bad times.
just stay in touch
xxxx