Oh Debz,
i think we all wish we had your s-i-l phone number to give her a piece of our minds. What a disgrace she is. If only we all lived closer you would be fed up of all the support we would give you!
The only thing I can think of is (if you are prepared for it) is to lose your rag and spell it out in no uncertain terms. As for marks mum she should be ashamed of herself. Could you not write to her and explain exactly how things are and leave the ball in her court. At least you get it off your chest.
When I had counselling a while ago I wrote a letter of exactly how I felt because I felt I couldn't change my parents behaviour verbally. It was great to get it all out (bad language and all!) I felt after I wrote it I had no need to send it as that was enough for me and the realisation was that their opinion and behaviours no longer mattered. Carrying all that frustration and hurt was making me ill so by writing everything I took away their power to hurt me anymore. Now if they say something I disagree with or am not happy about I tell them there and then. it was like retraining them on what i expect from them and prepared to take. it has made a huge difference without them even realising they have been trained!!! Even more satisfying!!
I hope I haven't over stepped a line with what I wrote, it's just I am frustrated and angry for you.
Huge hugs of support Debz
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